random update

I’ve really been unable to blog or read much of our buddies’ blogs out there during work hours. Work is busy and it’s not the sort of job where I can goof off too much.
I don’t want my friends out there to think I’m not paying attention, I’m just doing most of my catching up on nights or weekends!

In our news, Andrew is getting better.

The pediatrician (who we really like) didn’t want to put him on Zantac or anything, so she suggested we do a heavy mixture of the breast milk with rice cereal. It seems to be working like a charm!

He’s getting to be a little porker now. Not sure what the current weight it, but we are much more aware of how much he’s eating.

Last night, in one feeding, he ate 6.5 ounces of the breast milk with the cereal in it!

He wasn’t going down in the crib, so we put him back in the bassinet in our room for a little while and he had 3 nights in a row where he slept for 5 or 6 hours straight! Last night, he even put himself to sleep in the bassinet!

The first night he did it, we looked at the clock when we woke up and wondered if he was still breathing!

And for one more update….(sorry the post is so long)

I’m buying a car.

It was pretty much down to my brother’s WRX, a used Mazda 3 and a new Toyota Yaris.

The Yaris bombed in Consumer Reports and the used Mazda was almost $14k.

I need a car that will go 16-20k miles a year. And I don’t want to buy something used without a warranty (I gave up on ebay searches).

Plus, the funny thing is that one of car dealers who was a Volvo/Subaru dealer basically talked me out of buying a car from him and into buying my brother’s car. He said I can probably drive it for 2 years, then trade it in and get pretty close to the same amount I paid for it. Furthermore, it’s AWD, which will be super nice to not leave Lois stranded when I go to work in a snow storm.

The car shopping experience was horrendous.

I went into a Toyota dealership to buy a Yaris. The guy kept trying to sell me the top of the line Corolla. He wouldn’t listen to me and he kept calling me “Molly.”

His follow up letter said “thank you for your interest in a Corolla Sport.” I wanted a bottom-of-the-line Yaris, you ass!

I got tired of the question “How much money can you put down on a car?”

None. Nothing. Zilch. We bought a condo a year ago, bought a car for Lois in September, I switched jobs, Lois was on bed rest then lost her job (no income since Thanksgiving), we just had a kid who only can keep down the most expensive formula. The timing sucks.

No one has in stock that car on autobytel.com that’s the manual transmission, no options $11k car. They do, however, have a much better deal for $3,000 more.

The Honda Fit is expensive once you price it out. And the gas tank is located under the driver seat. That’s scary.

The Nissan Versa is one of the better options but you can’t get one for under $15,000.

These cars with great gas mileage have 1.6 or 1.8 Liter engines that don’t go faster than 65 mph and have no side curtain air bags.

I want a $10,000 car that lasts me at least 100,000 miles. I must be asking for the world.

I’m still bitter about the Hyundai. I bought the car because it was $10k off the lot with no money down. It had a 100k mile warranty and I was a law student making $100/week.

When the engine blew, the mileage was 100,530.

I tried calling service departments, Hyundai dealership managers, the corporate headquarters, consumer affairs divisions, etc.

“Don’t you guys have some good faith policy to fix something when the warranty just expired? Don’t you want to avoid the bad PR that a Hyundai car will only last through the week it hits the warranty?”

Nope. It’s not worth it. The car isn’t worth it.

It’s amazing how much value your car has to you (when it’s functioning). 2 weeks ago, my car was invaluable to me, getting me to and from work without hassle. Then, (POOF) just like that, it’s worth shit.

No, it’s worth less than shit.

It’s a car worth less than shit that I still owe the bank $1,800 on.

It is currently sitting in Bill’s driveway. I cleaned it out (which was very sad) this weekend and there it sits. It sits until I can pay off the lien through Chrysler Financial, get the title to it, then donate it to someone who will come tow it (i.e. kidney foundation, local tech school, etc.)

This is what my ride is now worth.

I am buying the Subaru WRX. It’s a hot rod with a rear spoiler, turbo hood, white exterior, 5-speed manual transmission and leather interior. And the leather is custom – black and royal blue with baseball stitching.

Ok, the car’s not really screaming suburban-mom-lawyer-professional. But it works.

Hell, I’m lucky that my brother is totally hooking me up – for under $10k. I’m taking a used car loan from USAA that will cover the taxes and registration, with an extra $500 to put towards paying off the Hyundai. (YES, I LOVE USAA – the interest rate on USED cars is less than some new car financing available other places!)

I just want this ordeal to be done and over with.

I feel better putting my son in the Subaru than some of the other cars I test drove.

The only down side is that I need to get all of my local cop stickers and shields onto the car ASAP. With an engine like this, I am going to get into trouble on the highway! (LOL, I’m not known for being a slow, patient driver).

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Oh yeah, and our baby shower is on Sunday. I can’t wait!
We have the perfect outfit for Andrew all picked out!

after a long day…

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A UConnn-less final four

I don’t know what happened. UConn didn’t show up last night.

They got crushed by a Pokey-less LSU.

It wasn’t due to lack of a fan base.

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This was the best picture we got because Andrew started crying moments after it was taken.

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In other news, Andrew is doing better on just breast milk. He still definitely has some constipation problems here and there, but it is much better than when he was on Enfamil Lipil.

Today, Lois will try to get him into the doctor. We are thinking he might have reflux. In the past week, he’s been spitting up more – even an hour after he eats, and he seems to be in pain right as he’s spitting up.

Maybe the pediatrician will have her own recommendation for formula – we are currently leaning towards Good Start since it was overwhelmingly recommended by people.

growing up too fast?

I know that we are letting our little boy spiral out of control with his wild lifestyle.

We’ve already shown you pictures of him sharing a pack n’ play with a younger woman, Miss Emma.

Now, they are drinking together.

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And Andrew is putting the moves on an intoxicated and half naked Miss Emma after a few bottles.

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What to do with our little Casanova?

Yes, I know we are twisted.

about poop

If you don’t like discussion on bodily fluids or bowel movements, move onto another blog – sorry for the TMI.

It’s amazing what you will talk about, what topics of conversation can be thrown around the dinner table, once pregnancy hits.

During pregnancy, child birth and now, having a baby, it seems that no line of discussion is off limits. It doesn’t even matter who is in the room anymore.

Now, I can talk and write about poop like I was discussing shoes or the ridiculous weather.

Our boy has been on formula for 36 hours. He was good yesterday, meaning he didn’t cry all day. And he had an ok night.

This morning, he was very cranky during his pooping. Last night and this morning, his poop was a little different.

It was thicker. Same color, just thicker. Know what I mean?

Yesterday, Salina gave us some Enfamil Gentlease, so we’re going to try that for a few days.

In the meantime, we are stocking our freezer with the boob juice in the hopes that we will be back on that soon with no problems.*

We’re hoping we don’t have “that crying kid” forever. Well, we’ll love him even if he is.

*NOTE: we are very happy to be using the Playtex drop in bottles since clean up and warm up seem so much easier. Plus, the Playtex bags are so much cheaper than the other breast milk storage bags – HOWEVER – we discovered last night that the bags that ziploc would be easier. We must use 2 8-oz Playtex bags with a twist-tie for storage purposes. We’ll probably keep using the Playtex, but we just didn’t think about it when we bought the 4 oz bags.

sleep

Those who watch American Idol…WTF????

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We are suffering from a little sleep deprivation in our household lately.

We’re trying to figure out if we just have one of those babies who cries all of the time for no reason, or if something is wrong.

He was awake all night except for a total of about 2-3 hours. All day today, he went down for about 5 minutes at a shot, waking up crying.

We’re tired. He’s upset about something, or nothing at all.

We are thinking of going solely to formula for a short period to see if anything changes, then try breast milk for a short period.

You feel so bad when you don’t know what the problem is. Poor little guy.

Happy Anniversary Lo!

I played Home by Michael Bublé six times on the way to work this morning. Yes, I do realize that the music doesn’t quite fit with the Fast and the Furious style of my current mode of transportation but I just couldn’t stop hearing the song.

Things are going to now get sappy.

Today is our anniversary. 7 years ago today was our first kiss and 3 years ago today was our illegal New Paltz wedding. (Our civil union anniversary is in October – we can have more than one anniversary!)

I keep thinking back about when we first met in December 1999. Our lives were definitely going two entirely separate directions. Lois had left her ex and was hanging on trying to maintain a relationship with the twins. She was regaining a relationship with her family – one that was non-existent for 7 years. Lois was trying to get back to being independent.

I was a lost soul. I was waiting tables, bartending, drinking after work, being destructive, teaching high school during the day, trying to figure out life. I was applying to law schools because I didn’t know what else to do. I was also going through life as a straight girl.

I thought Lois was cute the first moment I saw her. She thought I was a screwed up, spoiled, straight girl. I think she made a decision not to get involved with me. I don’t know what was going through my head; I just wanted to spend as much time with her as possible. And I knew I wasn’t straight.

Despite her attempts to not get involved with me, it happened. After we hooked up, she kept waiting for me to freak out. I never did. I couldn’t wait to be out. I was so thrilled about finding something that I didn’t realize I was looking for.

The first 5 months of our relationship was hiding things from my parents (I was living at home), sneaking off to parking lots or stealing time together in various places. It was like we were in high school doing something fun and forbidden.

I left for law school 5 months after we got together. Neither one of us had any expectations at all.

I was bad at relationships. When I felt I was losing control, I pushed her away. I tested her constantly, and yet she still persevered, even when she wanted to strangle me.

Through 3 years of full time law school, we saw each other almost every weekend (only 2 missed weekends). Lois made the 3 hour drive on Friday night after work, arriving exhausted. Some nights, it took her over 5 hours. Some Sundays, she’d stay until Monday and leave at 4 am. She was so wonderful and I was under appreciative, only getting sad and frustrated when she’d have to leave again.

There were many times when I would be an asshole, and she would just not give up on me.

7 years later, I am 50 lbs heavier and she still loves me.

Lois is wonderful.

She’s one of those people who no one could say anything bad about.

She has the biggest heart and the sweetest smile.

She does way too much for me, and she always has.

She makes me feel so warm inside and comfortable with myself.

Every issue I have, she embraces and tries to help me work through it.

She challenges me and doesn’t let me get ahead of myself.

She gives me something that I never thought I could have, nor did I know I was ever missing it.

My house is not a home without her.

Her smile will light me up across a crowded room.

Hearing her voice over the phone melts me.

Just holding her hand gives me the most comfort.

Watching her go through pregnancy and childbirth, which neither one of us ever in a million years thought she would do, was the most amazing and beautiful thing I have ever witnessed.

She is sensitive yet stronger than she knows.

She puts up with me.

She is probably way too good for me.

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Lo,

I love you…more.

I need you…more.

You are my everything.

Happy Anniversary!

Holly

March Madness

What a night for women’s basketball!

Go Red Foxes!!!!

There is a little March Madness going on in our house.

Andrew helped me cheer on Marist tonight.

(Don’t look at me, I look terrible. Look at the cute boy I’m holding!)

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They could go up against Tennessee next. I can’t wait!

Here’s his St. Patrick’s Day outfit. Uncle Pat gave him this outfit, so sad to say he’ll outgrow it by football season. ;-)

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GO LADY FOXES!

Yes, I am a UConn Women’s Basketball fan, but I, of course am a Marist fan through and through (my undergrad alma mater). It’s never on TV, but I try to at least watch tournament games.

Can you believe the women knocked off Ohio State??

Go Red Foxes!!!!!!!!!!!!

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In other news, the weekend was nice. After spending 2.5 hours trying to get home in the snow on Friday (a usual 30 minute drive), I was hoping for a little down time.

Instead, I spent Saturday car shopping with Suzanne, my car dealer expert. It was an incredibly discouraging experience and I was beyond frustrated when it was over.

The problem is that I owe money on the Hyundai. I would have bought a Toyota Yaris on Saturday if the dealer wasn’t being so shady. I will probably never have Andrew in it, so I am less concerned about the safety thing.

But, I can’t even afford the cheapest new car on the market and payoff the Hyundai. And I need to buy something with a warranty and the certified pre-owned cars are overpriced.

The Toyota dealer spent most of the time trying to sell me the $18,000 Corolla Sport and kept trying to divert me from my desire to buy a manual transmission, no power package Yaris (maybe $12k or $13k).

So, I am back to the drawing board this morning.

Plan A is to call the Hyundai service center and see if they will try to fix the car under warranty. I mean, really, they give 100k mile warranties and 6 days after I hit 100k, the engine blows?

Plan B is to try to pay off the Hyundai in a few short months. My brother has graciously lent me his car, which I will probably buy from him if Plan A doesn’t work out. I will pay him off as quickly as possible, so I don’t have a car payment.

So, I am driving the Chad-mobile for now. It’s a 2002 Subaru Impreza WRX Turbo with 57k miles. And I think the originally owner was a drug dealer in Bridgeport, so the car is a little “pimped out” or “souped up,” however you want to put it.

It’s a white car with royal blue leather custom seats and a “amplified” muffler. I’ve been driving the car less than 24 hours and have already been mortified by pulling into my quiet condo, a nice gas station in Niantic, CT and this morning, pulling into the courthouse parking garage. Whether or not I am keeping his car, I am getting a normal muffler put on it.

I feel pretty cool driving the turbo-loud car around blasting Shawn Colvin.

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