Happy Thanksgiving!

I’m still here! I’ve been working long hours and when I’m not working, I’m nursing the cold-that-will-never-go-away-complete-with-the-hacky-yucky-cough-that-keeps-me-up-all-night. The Shmoo and I have the same cold, so he’s refusing to sleep in his crib and for the last 3 nights, we’ve kept each other awake all night with our coughs all the whilst kicking each other all night. My poor wife.

In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I wanted to post a quick note to say that all is well here and we are sending out holiday cheer to all of our friends!

I am very, very thankful for so many things, it’s almost impossible to list.

I am thankful for my family.
I am thankful for our health.
I am thankful for my amazing wife and my healthy, spirited, fun and handsome little boy.
I am thankful for all of my friends. And I have great friends!
I am thankful for a roof over our heads and for that, I’m thankful for my job in an economy like this. Even if I dislike the job, I can still be thankful for it, right?!!?

I hope all of my friends have a safe and happy Thanksgiving. Please remember all of the things you are thankful for!

BTW – I’m in the newspaper AGAIN. No, not the police blotter.
It’s not a big deal, just a small article on gay marriage. If you’re interested, leave me a comment with your email!

keeping fighting

We had this amazing election last week that changed the course of history. I have wanted to write about it for days now, and I can’t put my exuberance into words.

Even if you were indifferent or undecided, you could not watch the celebrations last Tuesday night and not feel how monumental this election was.

I woke up Tuesday morning with a sense of dread that all of the close minded emails and conversations I heard over the past year would dominate the voting booths and that my fellow voters would be too afraid of change. They would be too afraid to elect a Black man named Obama.

But I was overwhelmed by my country! What an amazing moment!

At the same time, gay rights took a major blow to the gut in several states. The passing of Prop 8 in California completely blindsided me. That battle is our battle, regardless of whether or not you live in CA.

This week, as I am allowing myself to come down from the high of the votes, I am somber. But part of me wonders if this wasn’t something that will turn the tide.

Here in Connecticut, we have the right to marry. It’s a remarkable thing! But the absolute rights that go hand in hand with marriage are still denied.

The federal government will not recognize our marriages and silly little things like immigration laws, tax laws, probate, alimony, etc. are not included. Other states will not recognize us as married, or me as a parent for that matter. DOMA made sure of that.

This inane human right must be granted universally. We can fight state battle after state battle in hopes of making some ground, of turning the tide one state at a time.

For me, I am finding a place in my heart that is turning this Prop 8 vote into an opportunity above and beyond all opportunities we’ve had so far.

Let’s take this to the Supreme Court, folks. Let’s make this happen once and for all. I’m not completely sure that SCOTUS is ready to rule on this, but I just can’t believe that if the issue got there that they could rule against it. With the historical precedent facing the high court (go and read Loving v. Virginia), how could the Supreme Court possibly find the right for two consenting citizens to be denied the right to marry?!!?

Again, maybe I am being overly optimistic, but I’m not going to get off my podium yet.

In the meantime, please go watch this video. I absolutely love Keith Olbermann and this solidified it for me. Share this with everyone you know.

I had someone say to me this week that Prop 8 passed and I should “let it go.” Let it go?? We will never let it go until we succeed! I hope everyone continues to educate their friends, colleagues and family members.

Each and every one of us can play a part in changing the course of history, yet again.

blog identity crisis

I can’t believe what a bad blogger I’ve been lately. I think Facebook has consumed my life and may be easier for my limited attention span.

It’s funny that I feel like I’m going through an identity crisis with the blog. When I started with Diaryland in law school, it was an online diary of my thoughts. Often ranting, sometimes funny, it was just a log of what was going through my head.

This blog has turned into a blog about Shmoo, for the most part. I sometimes think about showing him the blog someday as a journal of his early life. But who else would want to read about our boring family life? I have totally drifted away from the everyday thoughts and occasional political insight that I used to do.

That leads me to the question, do I want to keep blogging? I’ve met so many amazing people out in blogland that I’ve become part of their lives!

My time for blogging is limited as well. I’m not good about keeping up on my friends so much anymore and I am sad that I’ve been missing out on my buddies’ journeys.

As I try to figure out how and if I will keep this blog going, I will reward all of my readers – the small number of you who might still read this – with some pictures of the Shmoo.

The last 2 weeks have flown by. I took Halloween off from work to bring Shmoo to day care in the morning for pictures. He was super clingy and terrible with the professional photographer. He cried during the class picture and wouldn’t sit still for the individual photo, let alone smile for it.

The only photo opp we got was when the day care director suggested having Shmoo get his picture taken with his BFF K*n. When K*n came in and sat next to Shmoo, the two of them were total cheeseballs, holding hands and grinning and hollering “CHEESE!” together. If anything, hopefully that picture came out!

Halloween night was so fun! We cut trick or treating short to go to the local mall, which was a total bust. Then we went to a friend’s house for the bonfire and boozin’ part of the night.

Shmoo was a Halloween SUPERSTAR! I got him into his costume by promising him we would go “outside.” When he got outside, all he wanted to do was get into the garage to get his tricycle. I picked him up and dragged him kicking and screaming up the stairs of our neighbor’s house. When she opened the door and put chocolate in Shmoo’s bucket, it all clicked!

He couldn’t wait to get to the next house and the next house! Although his vocabulary is limited, he can say “Tank You!” pretty clearly and he said it no less than 3 times to every person. People thought he was so cute, they kept giving him more and more!

The costume, including the hood, stayed on for about 5 hours! I couldn’t believe what a rockstar he was!

On Sunday of the same weekend, we went and saw S – one of Lois’ girls – at her horse show.

Just this past two weeks, Shmoo has been making huge strides in his vocabulary. For the first time, he’s actually repeating things that you say. We’ve been trying to get him to do this for months!

When you ask him where the horses live, he says “in the barn!” That day, he kept grabbing someone’s hand and demanding to go “in the barn!” By the end of the afternoon, he was becoming less and less scared of the horses and actually pet one!

As for any other Shmoo news….let’s see. Oh! Here’s a big one!

Someone went pee-pee on the potty!

Now, I don’t think he’s anywhere near being ready for potty training, but we had one of those moments that we hope is a breakthrough moment.

He is becoming super beasty during diaper changes. One morning, the wife just about had it and said, “you must wear a diaper unless you can go pee-pee on the potty!”

With that, he climbed off the bed and waltzed over to the potty. He wants the big potty, not the silly baby potty. Lo picked him up and placed him on it and he pushed and pushed until he peed! He then grabbed some toilet paper and wiped himself. Lo couldn’t believe it! He’s actually tried a few times since then. Who knows, at least he ‘gets it’ for now!

Hope everyone is doing well. I’m hoping to be a better blogger when I figure out how to keep some time for myself to go online without ignoring my work or my family!